Sexual Problems

Back by popular demand, I thought I would repost this video about taking the pressure out of sex. One of the most common themes I hear from couples is that sex has become pressured and they are no longer interested. What causes sex to feel pressured? Is it the way couples communicate? Is it about being married or in a relationship for too long? How do we stop the pressure?

One tip is to practice mindfulness in your sexual interactions. Mindfulness is the process of being completely present minded and in the moment. You avoid thinking about the next step (the future), and you try to leave the past behind you. Essentially, you kiss and get lost in the kiss. What are the sensations or feelings? What is nice about kiss? If you are flirting, you get very present minded and enjoy flirting all by itself. What is fun about flirting? In what ways can flirting by itself be a great form of intimacy? Check out the video to learn more.

Do you and your partner have different desire levels? Join the club! Many couples come to therapy because one of them has very high desire and the other one lower desire. The challenge is that this is normal! But what do we do? While this is a normal problem, there are many ways that couples can find some compromises with this conundrum. Learn more in this video.